Why You Need to Date Your Spouse

I feel like my parents did a lot of things right when I was growing up. They instilled good values, a strong work ethic, and compassion and empathy in me and my siblings.

What they also did right was date. I remember from a very early age having a babysitter on Friday nights while they went on date night. They went on weekend getaways while we stayed overnight with family. I remember my mom telling me at some point in my life that it’s so important to prioritize your marriage after kids, because eventually your kids will grow up and leave, but you’ll still be married.

Why You Need to Date Your Spouse

I don’t think I could fully appreciate their example and advice until I became a parent myself. It is so easy to get caught up in the busyness and rush of life. It’s become second nature for us to put ourselves after Oliver and Zoey. I think it’s necessary, and biblical, to prioritize our marriage above all. I want to have a strong foundation even after our kids leave, and I want them to grow up with a strong example of what marriage really looks like- love, a ton of hard work, and a choice to fight for a good marriage.

I’m a very firm believer that you need to date your spouse.

Our date nights look so different than pre-kids. We used to love going to the movies, mini golfing, and eating out. Now we rely heavily on date nights in, because babysitters don’t come cheap and added to the cost of a date- it can get pricey. Our go-to is Netflix. We try to go through shows together, but honestly, we have very different tastes. (He’s a Game of Thrones type of guy and I’m a Gilmore Girls type of girl.) We do make sure to enlist babysitters for any big events (birthdays, anniversaries, etc), and whenever we’re around my family we take advantage of them and sneak out for a little!

Why You Need to Date Your Spouse

Date nights in can be hard, though, because we both love technology! He loves YouTube and Call of Duty, and I feel like there’s always another post I can be working on. I’ll be honest- we really need to work on setting aside everything and just going tech-free for a few nights. We are working on it, though! The other night we sat and came up with a small “Blackmon Bucket List” of things we wanted to do as a family before the year ends. It was great just to sit and think about what we wanted to do together as a family. I think it’s all about intentionality and committing to spending that time together. I truly believe that this is so imperative to having a strong foundation and continuing to build a marriage that will last.

Occasionally we do get to go out alone, though, and when we do it’s so fun! I’m a stay-at-home-mom, y’all, so during the week I’m doing good if I get into jeans once or twice. I love to take date night as an opportunity to dress up a little. And how perfect is this dress from PinkBlush for that?! (Remember my obsession with floral?? Yea, it hasn’t gone anywhere.) As all their clothes are, this dress is insanely soft and comfortable. I love that I can dress this floral wrap dress up with heels and nice jewelry for a date night, but I can also wear some flats and a ponytail so it’s a little more casual for church (it’s also INCREDIBLY nursing friendly, which is a mega dress win in my book!).

Why You Need to Date Your Spouse

I think sometimes I overdress for our dates, but I love actually putting forth effort and trying to impress this man, and I hope that never goes away! (Though let’s be real- most of the times any fancy dress I attempt is accessorized by various stains of spit up. #babies)

So tell me, what are some of your favorite date night activities?

Have a phenomenal day!

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This dress was provided by PinkBlush, but all thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.

Why You Need to Date Your Spouse

10 Comments

  1. Reg

    August 13, 2017 at 1:37 am

    I’m a Gilmore Girls girl too! I believe in dating your spouse too. But it can be challenging with kids – loved your tips to sneak some time in together!

  2. Emily @ Pizza & Pull-Ups

    August 13, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    I so believe you need to keep dating and make time after babies! Thanks for sharing.

  3. Valerie Clement

    August 14, 2017 at 11:47 am

    Couldn’t agree more! We are so bad about this! I think we always struggle with asking family since they already help so much since the hubby and I both work full time. We for sure need to find a babysitter we trust so we can get out more!

  4. Tejal

    August 14, 2017 at 7:38 pm

    Alex you are so right about dating. I feel like my hubby and I haven’t done this very week for the first year but trying to do it a little more now.

  5. Minakshi bajpai

    August 15, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    I also agree with you that we should date once a while with our spouse. But it is also true that it is not possible with kids but can try also. Not actually date but we should have our time in which even we can listen to each other and can share something except the same topic of kids and food. You are looking very beautiful in all the pictures. Your floral 👗 dress looks very pretty.

  6. Nicole

    August 16, 2017 at 6:57 pm

    Dates with your spouse are so important!!! I also agree that technology is a barrier for my husband and I, I hate to admit it!

  7. Rashmi

    August 16, 2017 at 10:16 pm

    Agree with you tachnology is a barrier for us but we should try to date with our spouse and you are looking beautiful.

  8. Amanda

    August 18, 2017 at 8:42 am

    Dating your spouse is SO important! I have to admit that we haven’t done the best at this lately, but we have a very fun date night planned next weekend!

  9. Lindsey

    August 18, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    My mom watches Juliet every Wednesday night so we can have a date night and this started with Juliet was only 2 weeks old. It’s super important to us. Sometimes it’s dinner, sometimes the movies, and often times it’s a trip to Target after happy hour drinks!

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