Why You Need to Date Your Spouse
I feel like my parents did a lot of things right when I was growing up. They instilled good values, a strong work ethic, and compassion and empathy in me and my siblings.
What they also did right was date. I remember from a very early age having a babysitter on Friday nights while they went on date night. They went on weekend getaways while we stayed overnight with family. I remember my mom telling me at some point in my life that it’s so important to prioritize your marriage after kids, because eventually your kids will grow up and leave, but you’ll still be married.
I don’t think I could fully appreciate their example and advice until I became a parent myself. It is so easy to get caught up in the busyness and rush of life. It’s become second nature for us to put ourselves after Oliver and Zoey. I think it’s necessary, and biblical, to prioritize our marriage above all. I want to have a strong foundation even after our kids leave, and I want them to grow up with a strong example of what marriage really looks like- love, a ton of hard work, and a choice to fight for a good marriage.
I’m a very firm believer that you need to date your spouse.
Our date nights look so different than pre-kids. We used to love going to the movies, mini golfing, and eating out. Now we rely heavily on date nights in, because babysitters don’t come cheap and added to the cost of a date- it can get pricey. Our go-to is Netflix. We try to go through shows together, but honestly, we have very different tastes. (He’s a Game of Thrones type of guy and I’m a Gilmore Girls type of girl.) We do make sure to enlist babysitters for any big events (birthdays, anniversaries, etc), and whenever we’re around my family we take advantage of them and sneak out for a little!
Date nights in can be hard, though, because we both love technology! He loves YouTube and Call of Duty, and I feel like there’s always another post I can be working on. I’ll be honest- we really need to work on setting aside everything and just going tech-free for a few nights. We are working on it, though! The other night we sat and came up with a small “Blackmon Bucket List” of things we wanted to do as a family before the year ends. It was great just to sit and think about what we wanted to do together as a family. I think it’s all about intentionality and committing to spending that time together. I truly believe that this is so imperative to having a strong foundation and continuing to build a marriage that will last.
Occasionally we do get to go out alone, though, and when we do it’s so fun! I’m a stay-at-home-mom, y’all, so during the week I’m doing good if I get into jeans once or twice. I love to take date night as an opportunity to dress up a little. And how perfect is this dress from PinkBlush for that?! (Remember my obsession with floral?? Yea, it hasn’t gone anywhere.) As all their clothes are, this dress is insanely soft and comfortable. I love that I can dress this floral wrap dress up with heels and nice jewelry for a date night, but I can also wear some flats and a ponytail so it’s a little more casual for church (it’s also INCREDIBLY nursing friendly, which is a mega dress win in my book!).
I think sometimes I overdress for our dates, but I love actually putting forth effort and trying to impress this man, and I hope that never goes away! (Though let’s be real- most of the times any fancy dress I attempt is accessorized by various stains of spit up. #babies)
So tell me, what are some of your favorite date night activities?
Have a phenomenal day!
This dress was provided by PinkBlush, but all thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.