May Grace and Coffee Abound

You know those days where you just nail the whole parenting thing? The kids (and you) are dressed before noon, full, nutritious meals are had, only giggles from a listening toddler, you actually drink hot coffee? Yea, yesterday was absolutely NOT one of those days.

Let me preface by saying (as I think I have in every post so far), that I ADORE my children. I’m incredibly grateful to be able to stay home with them. But let’s just be real here, shall we? This stay at home mama gig is no joke. My two month old daughter is JUST now starting to be a content, happy baby, and my almost two-year-old son is about as energetic and outgoing as they come. Sometimes we have phenomenal days; their nap times sync, Zoey sleeps almost all day, I actually get coffee in my system before 1 in the afternoon, Oliver listens and eats and we all just click- it’s great! And then we have yesterday.

I’m coming off of very little sleep which means ZERO patience to start my day, and then Zoey isย  super fussy and Oliver wants all of the attention and is trying to see how many tantrums he can throw before nap time. He doesn’t want to eat any of the 3 harried “meals” I scrambled to put together for him- so I end up picking spaghetti up off of the floor. This is all without coffee because it’s sitting cold on the kitchen table. Also, my house is a mess and dishes are overflowing in my sink (I know you’re supposed to let that stuff go, but seriously, it stresses me out.).

It’s in these moments that I end my day feeling like a terrible mom. I’ve snapped at my kids more than I’ve laughed with them, and I’ve probably told my infant daughter to “stop crying, for the love of GOD!” (in a louder than necessary tone). But ya know what? The next morning, my son gives me a huge smile from his crib and babbles up a storm. My daughter gives me a big toothless smile. And then I’m just struck with the amount of grace my kiddos have with me. They don’t hold my bad day against me, and they don’t demand that I atone for it with apologies and gifts. They just…move on. It’s over and forgotten. It just amazes me how reflective this is of God’s grace towards us.

May Grace and Coffee Abound

Not enough moments give me pause throughout the day. But every. single. time I realize how much I’ve let my kids down and it seems they don’t even realize it, I’m blown away by how God just…moves on when we sin against him. He doesn’t hold it against us. His Son has already been sent to atone for our sins for us. He doesn’t demand 10 good deeds to out weigh the three bad things we did. He just gives us grace. Sweet, sweet grace.

This gives you license to give yourself grace, mama. We won’t always be perfect, but we will always be the perfect mama’s for our littles. Do what you have to do to get through the day, and have grace with yourself at the end of it all.

By God’s grace and the grace given to me by my two tiny humans, I might just get through motherhood. Grace, and lots and lots of coffee, of course.

What life lessons have you learned from your kiddos? I’d love to hear about them in the comments!

Have a phenomenal day!

"Alex" in cursive

8 Comments

  1. Libby

    June 15, 2017 at 7:32 am

    Perfectly put Alex. My littles are not so little anymore but I’m so humbled when my teenagers extend a hand or hug when they know I’m having a bad day. Some days they get it better than I do. โค๏ธ

  2. Tricia

    June 15, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    We all have rough days, mama! You’re right, staying at home is no joke. It has challenges just like any other job! It also has lots and lots of rewards… like the grace and love our kiddos demonstrate ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Terryn Winfield

    June 15, 2017 at 3:13 pm

    I literally laughed out loud in the beginning! I so feel you, ten times over. As a mom of six, with another on the way, I have had plenty of those days where I wonder how I am possibly supposed to be all to them. And then I remember that I’m not, that God gives us grace just as we are to give them grace.

  4. Davi

    June 15, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    Love this essay and can relate to it so much! The lesson I’ve learned from my daughter is gratitude in the ordinary. I became her mother through adoption after suffering several losses and setbacks on the journey to parenthood. We have a glass door to our home office and I can’t bring myself to clean her little handprints off. Those little handprints remind me of God’s grace and my thankfulness that I have tiny handprint smudges to clean.

  5. Kristi File

    June 15, 2017 at 4:31 pm

    Beautiful post mama! It would say one of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned from my James is patience. I don’t have much of it but he is my constant reminder to work on slowing down, and taking a deep breath every now and then. They really do teach us so much. Thanks for sharing! xoxo

  6. Laura

    June 15, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    My 8 month old has taught me patience and that they have bad days too! At the end of the day, they always need us! ๐Ÿ™‚ love your blog!

  7. Brenda

    June 15, 2017 at 9:53 pm

    This is great timing – I had one of those moments today! My daughter’s final was starting at 3 and I usually try and pray when it starts. I got busy, and at 4:30 I realized I hadn’t prayed yet! I thanked God for taking care of my daughter during her test, even though I hadn’t remembered to pray again until it was almost over.

  8. Mary Leigh

    June 16, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Well written. Some days are just like that. I cling onto this verse in motherhood. That and the fact that His mercies are new every – single – morning. I hope today is of to a great start and that y’all have a great weekend!

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