May Grace and Coffee Abound
You know those days where you just nail the whole parenting thing? The kids (and you) are dressed before noon, full, nutritious meals are had, only giggles from a listening toddler, you actually drink hot coffee? Yea, yesterday was absolutely NOT one of those days.
Let me preface by saying (as I think I have in every post so far), that I ADORE my children. I’m incredibly grateful to be able to stay home with them. But let’s just be real here, shall we? This stay at home mama gig is no joke. My two month old daughter is JUST now starting to be a content, happy baby, and my almost two-year-old son is about as energetic and outgoing as they come. Sometimes we have phenomenal days; their nap times sync, Zoey sleeps almost all day, I actually get coffee in my system before 1 in the afternoon, Oliver listens and eats and we all just click- it’s great! And then we have yesterday.
I’m coming off of very little sleep which means ZERO patience to start my day, and then Zoey is super fussy and Oliver wants all of the attention and is trying to see how many tantrums he can throw before nap time. He doesn’t want to eat any of the 3 harried “meals” I scrambled to put together for him- so I end up picking spaghetti up off of the floor. This is all without coffee because it’s sitting cold on the kitchen table. Also, my house is a mess and dishes are overflowing in my sink (I know you’re supposed to let that stuff go, but seriously, it stresses me out.).
It’s in these moments that I end my day feeling like a terrible mom. I’ve snapped at my kids more than I’ve laughed with them, and I’ve probably told my infant daughter to “stop crying, for the love of GOD!” (in a louder than necessary tone). But ya know what? The next morning, my son gives me a huge smile from his crib and babbles up a storm. My daughter gives me a big toothless smile. And then I’m just struck with the amount of grace my kiddos have with me. They don’t hold my bad day against me, and they don’t demand that I atone for it with apologies and gifts. They just…move on. It’s over and forgotten. It just amazes me how reflective this is of God’s grace towards us.
Not enough moments give me pause throughout the day. But every. single. time I realize how much I’ve let my kids down and it seems they don’t even realize it, I’m blown away by how God just…moves on when we sin against him. He doesn’t hold it against us. His Son has already been sent to atone for our sins for us. He doesn’t demand 10 good deeds to out weigh the three bad things we did. He just gives us grace. Sweet, sweet grace.
This gives you license to give yourself grace, mama. We won’t always be perfect, but we will always be the perfect mama’s for our littles. Do what you have to do to get through the day, and have grace with yourself at the end of it all.
By God’s grace and the grace given to me by my two tiny humans, I might just get through motherhood. Grace, and lots and lots of coffee, of course.
What life lessons have you learned from your kiddos? I’d love to hear about them in the comments!
Have a phenomenal day!